When Breath Becomes Air

by Paul Kalanithi

Most lives are lived with passivity toward death—it’s something that happens to you and those around you.

Our patients’ lives and identities may be in our hands, yet death always wins. Even if you are perfect, the world isn’t.

The secret is to know that the deck is stacked, that you will lose, that your hands or judgment will slip, and yet still struggle to win for your patients. You can’t ever reach perfection, but you can believe in an asymptote toward which you are ceaselessly striving.

Doctors, it turns out, need hope, too.

“You can’t ever reach perfection, but you can believe in an asymptote toward which you are ceaselessly striving.”