In order for genuine affection to take place, knowledge of the lovable other is needed. An image has to become fixed in the mind – a face, a voice, a picture, a garment at the very least – some kind of reminder of the person. In other words, love requires lovable features, not lofty concepts, ethereal entities, or other vagaries devoid of attributes. This kind of ‘love’ is primitive, undeveloped, and usually self-deluding.
