More on this book
Kindle Notes & Highlights
Read between
March 9 - April 16, 2020
we learn helplessness when we believe that we have no options.4 We give up and nearly shut down. We become victims. On the flipside, those who believe they have options—who are optimistic—fare better in the world in everything from relationships and careers to health and longevity. Seeing and making choices—even if the choice is not to choose—is one of the elixirs of life.5
choosing a path and then dealing with consequences good or bad is crucial to great leadership.
“Courage is that feeling you get when you’re standing on a surface that feels like it can’t hold you, but you stand there anyway.”
Are you sabotaging yourself by saying things like “This work is ridiculous” or “This is getting out of hand”? Try saying something like this instead: “Okay, this is hard, but I’m fully equipped to manage this.”
If the food doesn’t occur in nature and its name ends in the letter O, think twice before eating it.
This is very stupid
Stupid comparison
The strong ego is like that—it is a gentle one. It doesn’t have to hurt you in order to make its point. It doesn’t have to be right every step of the way, and it looks for win/win situations. The strong ego fully realizes that we’re all unfinished human beings and that together we might actually get something done. The weak ego, on the other hand, is fragile and supremely unconfident. It’s a bully. It’s all right for it to get hurt, just so long as the other person gets hurt more. The weak ego needs to be right at all costs and will own just about every good idea that comes along, because of
...more
The strong ego’s mantra is “I am no longer interested in being right; I am only interested in what works.”
Flow is the euphoric state one falls into when performing a skill they have practiced. The person in flow loses track of time; the activity feels easy to perform; there is a lack of self-consciousness—the ego is in check. That is flow. And the research is showing that flowing together with others is even more powerful than being in flow alone.
Don’t interrogate or use the Socratic method, whereby you ask them questions that eventually lead them to see the error in their thinking and the wisdom in yours.
Detach yourself from the need to prove you’re right. Adopt the mindset that your idea is one of many other ideas in the room, even though some ideas are the polar opposite of yours.
