The root meaning of infatuation derives from the Latin in-fatuus, “to make foolish.”[14] Experience tells us that life is not always lived to such a lyrical beat. Excitement and enthusiasm must eventually give way to quiet, thoughtful presence. Infatuation must weather separation, loneliness, conflict, tension, and patches of boredom that challenge its capacity to endure. If it is to survive, the illusory intimacy of the first fascination must mature into authentic intimacy characterized by self-sacrifice as well as appreciation of and communication with the beloved.
