What is missing from the natural adaptation response is that it doesn’t engage your emotions. Adaptation allows you to survive, function, and take care of your child. A deep awareness of what you are feeling is not necessary to adaptation. You can be a perfectly humming machine on the outside, but on the inside, you may feel like a robot. From a brain perspective, your left hemisphere (the site of facts and linear thinking) is fully engaged, but your right hemisphere (the site of processing feelings, intuitions, and holistic problem solving) is dormant or repressed. I have seen parents who
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