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July 4 - July 6, 2020
Perfectionism makes you stay home, not take chances, and procrastinate on projects; it makes you think your life is worse than it is; it keeps you from being yourself; it stresses you out; it tells you that good is bad; and it ignores the natural way in which things work.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Perfectionists do not accept a small amount of value or progress; they only want big, smooth, perfect wins.
Being seen and even embarrassed occasionally is an essential part of life.
People who have successfully changed their lives have figured out that when you start doing something, your emotions follow suit.
Never forget this: It’s easier to change your mind and emotions by taking action than it is to change your actions by trying to think and feel differently.
The primary benefits of becoming an imperfectionist are reduced stress and greater results by taking positive action in more situations. The more fearless, confident, and free a person is, the more they embrace imperfection in their life.
In general, the idea behind imperfectionism is to not care so much about conditions or results, and care more about what you can do right now to move forward with your identity and your life.
Whatever you want to do more of in life—exercise, write, read, swim, dance, sing, laugh, and so on—lower the bar for doing it. If you are willing to do it in the sewer, you will never fail to do it again.
Perfectionists use their desire for positive results to motivate them to go through the process. Imperfectionists focus on the process and let the results take care of themselves.
Acceptance of your humanity is equally paramount. You’re allowed to make mistakes—even horrific ones—because you’re human.
“People who want the most approval get the least and people who need approval the least get the most.” ~ Wayne Dyer
People who lack confidence tend to seek permission for their actions. This means that they value others’ opinions more than their own. Remember, it’s not self-confidence when someone else gives it to you!
When you don’t care about the approval of others, you are free to be yourself and do things you’d never consider otherwise.
Don’t seek approval from others or you’ll never have approval from yourself.
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” ~ Dr. Seuss
Procrastination is not caused by laziness but by a combination of fear and overcomplicated objectives, which come from a perfectionistic mindset.
