When someone you love expresses pain, it is natural to want to fix the problem or make the person feel better. But oftentimes your spouse isn’t asking you to come up with a solution at all—just to be a good listener or offer a ready shoulder to cry on. So unless your partner has specifically asked for help, don’t try to fix the problem, change how your partner feels, or rescue him or her. Instead, your motto should be “Don’t do something, just be there!”
