If you’ve reached gridlock on any issue in your marriage, big or small, you need to identify which dream or dreams are fueling the conflict. One good indicator that you’re wrestling with a hidden dream is that you consider your spouse to be the source of the marital difficulty. If you find yourself saying, for example, that the problem is simply that he is a slob or she is irresponsible or overly demanding, that’s a sign of a hidden dream. It may indicate that you don’t see your part in creating the conflict because it has been hidden from view.
