A significant key to preventing gridlock is also to be on the lookout for those small moments where you “miss” each other’s needs. If either of you is feeling a lot of hurt over seemingly minor slights, you may want to spend some extra time on strengthening your fondness and admiration (chapter 5) and practice turning toward each other (chapter 6). Not acknowledging and talking out these small moments can make a relationship more vulnerable to gridlock over significant issues.
