The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert

by John M. Gottman

When addressing a partner’s request, their motto tends to be a helpful “Yes, and …” rather than “Yes, but …”

One important message of these findings is that it is not wise to stay in a bad marriage for the sake of your children. It is clearly harmful to raise kids in a home that is consumed by hostility.

LOVE MAPS QUESTIONNAIRE By giving honest answers to the following questions, you will get a sense of the quality of your current love maps. For the most accurate reading of how your marriage is doing on this first principle, both of you should complete the following. Read each statement, and circle T for “true” or F for “false.”