A conversation about lovemaking that starts with one partner criticizing the other is going to end faster than a “quickie.” Nothing is guaranteed to make your spouse want to touch you less than if you say, “You never touch me.” It’s better to say, “I loved when we kissed last weekend on the big couch. I’d love more of that, it makes me feel so good.” Likewise, instead of, “Don’t touch me there,” you’ll get a better response if you say, “It feels extra good when you touch me here.”
