We must ask ourselves questions like these: • Did my family deny or minimize loss and endings? • Did my family blame others, demanding that someone or something was always to blame for a loss? • Did my family members blame themselves for endings and losses, retreating into isolation or depression? • Did my family members distance themselves from endings and losses by intellectualizing them or manufacturing half-truths to soften the painful reality of what really happened? • Did my family tend to medicate the pain of loss through self-destructive, compulsive, or addictive behavior? • Did my
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