In Chapter 2, I talked about how our brains “mirror” other people and how we want to be mirrored back. People who complain and cause problems typically have a serious mirror neuron receptor deficit, and the more other people avoid or ignore them, the worse it gets. Every day, they try to impress or overpower the people around them . . . and every day they fail to get the feedback they’re seeking. They’re starving for attention, and if they can’t find a good way to achieve the sense of importance they crave, they’ll look for a bad way. (Call it the Graffiti Rule.) In short, these people are
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