Kindle Notes & Highlights
Serving and Healing, Reinventing Manhood, and Freeing and Enriching the Human Spirit.
Critique is too comfortable. Self-love is the hard part.
Our beliefs color and create our reality. If we choose a pessimistic view, we will search for and find evidence that supports it, and we will create experiences that reflect it.
Society has done a remarkable job of shaming and minimizing gay men; undoing this damage is a lifelong process.
Can you recognize yourself? Can you love what you see? Can you fall in love with the tribe that is gay men?
While it is likely that gay men used the piers for sex because they were deserted, this phenomenon illustrates how, when gay men are free to create communities without interference from the heterosexual world, we invite both sexuality and creativity to flourish.
when individuals free their sexual energy, they innovate.
As perhaps one of the sexually freest groups of people, gay men disproportionately innovate, both socially and culturally.
We create sexual subcultures—new ways for men to relate and connect non-violently.
Whether we engage in cruising with the intention to connect sexually, or simply for the thrill of the hunt, cruising lights a fire that drives gay men.
our sexual patterns create a distinct social network and range of relationships that also have no parallel elsewhere.
Gay men’s prodigious sexual connections with each other create a network—indeed, a brotherhood—that links us together, bringing us from our disparate families of origin into a new family that transcends geographic boundaries.
