I am asking all who read this to forego their normal hope for a plan, a grand scheme to fix what’s wrong to kick in after thirty pages. It won’t happen here. That is a big part of why it is the way it is at the end of our lives, this problem-solving reflex. It is that way with most relationships in trouble: We instinctively try harder to do more of what we’ve been doing that got us into trouble, trying to fix what we are hardly willing to learn.
