Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better

by Brant Hansen

Self-forgetfulness is not about mystically wishing myself into nonexistence or pretending I’m meaningless. It’s just the opposite. Self-forgetfulness is what happens when we’re emotionally healthy. It’s remembering that God is my defender, His opinion is what matters, and whatever my offenders are doing to me, I’ve done to others as well. And God has forgiven me. I simply must forgive in return and forfeit my right to anger. So it’s not about “clearing the mind” or embracing nothingness. On the contrary; rather than clearing my mind, I have to remind myself of those larger truths. I have to consider others better than myself, consider how the lilies of the field don’t worry about themselves. Consider. Remind myself. Remember that, ultimately, there’s something greater happening, a deeper story at work in the world, and at work in me.