Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life

by Emily Nagoski

This is what can make changing your map so difficult. It requires a little journey through the pit of despair, grieving for the map that was wrong and all the places you missed as a result.

Sometimes letting go of a particular goal feels like you have to let go of your entire identity.

I wrote it because I am done living in a world where women are lied to about their bodies; where women are objects of sexual desire but not subjects of sexual pleasure; where sex is used as a weapon against women; and where women believe their bodies are broken, simply because those bodies are not male. And I am done living in a world where women are trained from birth to treat their bodies as the enemy.