I know everyone has told you that sex is a drive. I know that even the newest sex research sometimes holds fast to the idea of spontaneous desire as a drive.13 And to make it even more confusing, sometimes sex researchers who know better say, “sex drive,” in the same way atheists say, “Thank God.” The language is so embedded in the culture that even people whose entire knowledge system is contrary to the fact still use the words. But sex isn’t a drive. Please tell everyone you know.
