An indication that you may need to set limits is that you’re feeling frightened, smothered, angry, low self-esteem, depressed, or resentful. Either someone may have violated your boundaries or you have given too much and feel used or taken for granted. Fear or anger means you may need to take an action to protect yourself or correct something. You may need to set limits with yourself — for example, to work more or less, spend less time on the phone, or stop volunteering your time and energy. When you’re tempted to blame someone else, ask yourself whether you need to set a boundary concerning
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