It’s important to realize that the addict didn’t choose to become addicted. It’s not a moral issue. Nothing you did caused it, nor can you control or change it. It doesn’t mean that the addict is a bad person or doesn’t love you. Addiction and codependency are considered diseases. Would you try to change someone’s behavior associated with diseases like tuberculosis or diabetes? Would you blame the person, or have compassion and learn all you could about the disease and how to best deal with it?
