Carrying the message should also be informed by the Twelve Step program tradition of relying on “attraction rather than promotion.” The best way to do this is to be an example. Although suggesting a Twelve Step program might be appropriate, nagging someone to get help for his or her codependency is codependent and violates Step One. Instead, help others problem-solve and find their own solutions without giving advice. Show compassion, set appropriate boundaries when necessary, and help clarify the person’s options, which may include attending a meeting or seeking therapy.
