You may get complaints that you’ve changed or that you’re selfish. You can agree: “Yes, I have changed,” or “I am thinking of myself more. What’s wrong with that?” These attempts to undermine your resolve eventually pass. If the other person hasn’t listened to you or changed his or her behavior, be sure you’ve specified and carried out consequences. When you’re serious, you’re taken seriously. In addition, remember that boundaries aren’t intended to control someone but are for your comfort. Consider actions you can take.
