Self-love is very different from self-pity, which is a blend of fear, judgment, and anger about troubles that have befallen you. With self-compassion and empathy, you’re present to your raw feeling experience and are able to allow it and comfort yourself with understanding and care. Self-pity implies, “It shouldn’t be this way,” but with self-love, there’s compassion for and acceptance of what is, with no attempt to resist or fix it.
