Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverts

by Susan Cain

I prefer spending time with one or two friends instead of a group. I’d rather express my ideas in writing. I enjoy being alone. I prefer deep conversations to small talk. My friends tell me that I’m a good listener. I prefer small classes to large ones. I avoid conflicts. I don’t like showing people my work until it’s perfect. I work best on my own. I don’t like being called on in class. I feel drained after hanging out with friends, even when I have fun. I’d rather celebrate my birthday with a few friends and family, instead of having a huge party. I don’t mind big independent projects at school. I spend lots of time in my room. I’m usually not a big risk taker. I can dive into a project, practice a sport or instrument, or engage in something creative for hours at a time, without getting bored. I tend to think before I speak. I’d rather text or e-mail than talk on the phone with someone I don’t know very well. I don’t feel totally comfortable being the center of attention. I usually like asking questions more than I like answering them. People often describe me as soft-spoken or shy. If I had to choose, I’d prefer a weekend with absolutely nothing to do to one with too many things scheduled.