Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverts

by Susan Cain

Being an introvert is about having a deep inner life, and considering that inner life to be important.

Extroverts thrive in groups and gain energy from being around others.

Introverts make up a third to half of the population—that’s

Just like introversion, shyness has its advantages. Studies show that shy kids tend to have loyal friendships, and to be conscientious, empathetic, and creative. Both shy and introverted people make great listeners. And it’s through listening that we tend to be good at observing, learning, and maturing.

even Jung said that no one is all introvert or all extrovert.

I prefer spending time with one or two friends instead of a group. I’d rather express my ideas in writing. I enjoy being alone. I prefer deep conversations to small talk. My friends tell me that I’m a good listener. I prefer small classes to large ones. I avoid conflicts. I don’t like showing people my work until it’s perfect. I work best on my own.

I feel drained after hanging out with friends, even when I have fun.

I don’t mind big independent projects at school. I spend lots of time in my room.

I can dive into a project, practice a sport or instrument, or engage in something creative for hours at a time, without getting bored. I tend to think before I speak. I’d rather text or e-mail than talk on the phone with someone I don’t know very well.

If I had to choose, I’d prefer a weekend with absolutely nothing to do to one with too many things scheduled.

Validation from those around you—online or in person—feels good, but the most important validation comes from your very own self.