“One example is when parents first help children learn to walk. Can you imagine standing a child up and saying, ‘Walk,’ and when he falls down you pick him up and spank him and say, ‘I told you to walk’? “Instead, you stand the child up and the first day he wobbles a little bit, and you get all excited and say, ‘He stood, he stood!’ and you hug and kiss the child. The next day he stands for a moment and maybe wobbles a step, and you are all over him with kisses and hugs. “Finally, the child, realizing that this is a pretty good deal, starts to stand on his legs more and more until he
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