Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway: How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into Confidence and Action

by Susan Jeffers

Exercises 1. Using the No-Lose Model, consider some decisions you are now facing. Write down all the positive things that can happen by using either pathway—even if the outcome might not be what you picture. 2. Learn the concept IT DOESN’T REALLY MATTER by starting with little decisions you face each day. As you ponder which suit to wear to the office, notice that it doesn’t really matter; which restaurant to eat at tonight, it doesn’t really matter; which movie to see, it doesn’t really matter. Each choice simply produces a different experience. Slowly you will be able to apply this concept to larger and larger decisions. Put signs in your home and office that say IT REALLY DOESN’T MATTER to remind yourself when you are being needlessly obsessive. 3. Also, put signs in your home and office that say SO WHAT! I’LL HANDLE IT! If things don’t work out the way you want, so what! What’s the big deal, anyway? This reminder will help you lighten up about life as you learn you can handle whatever happens after you’ve made your decision. 4. Look at clues in your life that suggest you are off course and begin making your game plan to correct the situation. fn1 The Floating Hospital is an amazing health center aboard a ship. It offers diagnosis, prevention, treatment and educational services to the poor in New York City. During the summer months, it takes 800 people a day on a health cruise around Manhattan, and during the winter it provides dockside services to people of all ages.