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May 10, 2019 - January 20, 2020
Anger is your clue that you are not taking responsibility.
anger impatience upset joylessness blaming others fatigue pain intimidation vengeance attempt to control others lack of focus obsessiveness self-pity addictions envy judgmentalness helplessness disappointment constant state of limbo jealousy
Taking responsibility means handling the Chatterbox.
Aside from Pollyanna, Norman Vincent Peale, Napoleon Hill, Maxwell Maltz,
When problem solving, stimulating discussion or reading is a part of your daily life, your mind is sharp.
OUTTALK YOUR NEGATIVITY.
“Every day I am getting stronger and stronger”
“temple of learning”
IT IS AMAZINGLY EMPOWERING TO HAVE THE SUPPORT OF A STRONG, MOTIVATED AND INSPIRATIONAL GROUP OF PEOPLE.
It is more than likely that as soon as you stop agreeing with their victim act, they will either disappear or come along.
today I’m blessed with a circle of fantastic friends.
beginning, this Pendulum Syndrome is a reality, and it causes much confusion and discomfort, not only
When I challenge my students, they can’t find more credence in the No-Win Model than in the No-Lose Model, yet the latter can move us from a position of pain to one of power, which is ultimately our goal as we learn to deal with fear.
THE KNOWLEDGE THAT YOU CAN HANDLE ANYTHING THAT COMES YOUR WAY IS THE KEY TO ALLOWING YOURSELF TO TAKE RISKS.
security is not having things; it’s handling things.
From the analogy, we see that the trick in life is not to worry about making a wrong decision; it’s learning when to correct!
lengthy process involved in behavior change. Simply
begin!
Write down all the positive things that can happen by using either pathway—even if the outcome might not be what you picture.
IT REALLY DOESN’T MATTER
SO WHAT! I’LL HANDLE IT!
Dependency in a relationship, as you might have experienced in your own life, creates some very unattractive side effects—anger, jealousy, resentment, clinging, nagging—all very unpleasant to live with. These self-defeating qualities are the result of a deep-seated fear of losing that which we see
Staying home with children is not inherently bad. However, when parents depend on children for their own emotional survival, it is clearly detrimental. Not only is it unhealthy for the parent; it is also unhealthy for the children. A parent’s survival is a heavy burden for a child to bear!
This tool is to “act as if” you really count. What would that look like? What would she be doing if she knew she really counted? Some possibilities the class came up with were: creating daily goals and seeing that they are completed, interacting with other staff members in a way that would make their day happier, creating an environment that is a pleasure to work in. She added, “I would also get there on time.” Sandy promised she would give it a try after I assured her that committing herself to this job would not mean that she would be there forever.
100% commitment and acting as if you count. Let’s call them the MAGIC DUO, for that’s exactly what they create in your life—
magic.
ACTION IS THE KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS.
By setting goals for all areas of your grid, your life will become balanced.
As you approach each goal, bear in mind the Magic Duo—100% commitment and I count—to help you focus and achieve a sense of fulfillment.
“growth buddy.”
ACKNOWLEDGMENT OF PAIN IS VERY IMPORTANT; DENIAL IS DEADLY.
Those who say no usually withdraw from life, choosing symbolically to hide under the covers to keep themselves from becoming victims—ironically, ending up complete victims of their own fears.
they had actually said yes to their universe!
SAYING YES MEANS GETTING UP AND ACTING ON YOUR BELIEF THAT YOU CAN CREATE MEANING AND PURPOSE IN WHATEVER LIFE HANDS YOU.
THE WORLD IS FILLED WITH PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN HANDED THE “WORST” LIFE HAS TO OFFER … AND THEY HAVE COME OUT WINNERS!
SAY YES TO YOUR UNIVERSE (an obvious one); I AM FINDING VALUE IN EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS TO ME; LET GO.
let go of the picture of what the outcome “should” be, to open the way for possibilities your mind is incapable of predicting.
Trust that you’ll eventually get bored of being depressed or upset and you’ll then find a way out of the quicksand. Most of us do anyway. Saying yes helps you find your way much faster, thus vastly improving the quality of your life.
Every time you find yourself resisting what’s happening at the present moment, recall the phrase SAY YES TO YOUR UNIVERSE.
You will watch your life become more and more pleasurable. Relationships with the whole world will improve dramatically.
You will notice your level of fear slowly start to drop as it is replaced by a greater sense of trust in your ability to handle your world. As you start to see the possibilities in the impossible, you will begin to see that
the world works “perfectly.” You can find reason and purpose in everything—if you open your mind to it.
Let go and let the river carry you to new adventure by the way you experience your life. In this way—and only in this way—it is impossible to lose.
Create awareness that you can choose to say yes or no. 2. Nod your head—say yes. 3. Relax your body. 4. Adopt an attitude of “Let’s see what good will come from this situation.” 5. Be patient with yourself. It takes times to adopt a “yes” approach to life. Say yes to you!
IF ALL YOUR “GIVING” IS ABOUT “GETTING,” THINK HOW FEARFUL YOU WILL BECOME.
People who fear can’t genuinely give.
WHEN WE GIVE FROM A PLACE OF LOVE, RATHER THAN FROM A PLACE OF EXPECTATION, MORE USUALLY COMES BACK TO US THAN WE COULD EVER HAVE IMAGINED.
Thank you, thank you, thank you. Start getting those words in your consciousness about everyone around you. Start giving them away instead of waiting for them to come to you.
We want our loved ones to be affirming and supportive. It is important to surround ourselves with giving, loving and nurturing people. This implies the flip side of the coin: YOU MUST BECOME WHAT YOU WANT TO ATTRACT BE THE KIND OF PERSON YOU WOULD WANT TO SURROUND YOURSELF WITH.
So, knowing that you count, or “acting as if” you do, give away your time. What an incredible gift!
