“If only” is boring. You can hear the whine behind it. “Next time” implies that you have learned from the situation and will put the learning to use another time. For example, “If only I hadn’t said that to Tom” can be restated, “I’ve learned Tom is sensitive about this issue. Next time, I’ll be more sensitive.” “What will I do?” Again you can hear the whine and the fear implied in these words. You, like everyone else, have incredible sources of power within that you haven’t used before. It would serve you to say to yourself, “I know I’ll handle it. I have nothing to worry about.” Instead of,
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