if we were bullied as a child, unless we have resolved our own pain, we will be unable to tolerate our children’s pain when they are bullied. In such a situation, we are likely to foster in our children either an inability to handle their emotions, or a belief that under no circumstance must they ever portray themselves as vulnerable. Believing they must appear powerful and in control, they learn to be macho even if they don’t feel strong. In countless subtle ways, our own issues around power and control are imposed on our children. When
