Without imposing any sort of judgment or interpretation on his son’s behavior, and—most critical of all, leaving himself out of the equation—he would diminish his rigidity, thereby freeing up much internal space and allowing him the flexibility to be creative in his response to his son. When we open up internal space, we discover new ways of encountering our children, which is refreshingly different from repeatedly engaging in the same battles. Coming from a need to “do” something divorces us from our flow of creativity. Life is then parent pitted against child, a battle for the supremacy of
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