Recall that the point of the poisonous messages that your child is being exposed to is to convey to her that you don’t really love and cherish her. In that case, to remove yourself from the situation is to confirm that message in the mind of your child. “See?” your ex can say to your child. “I told you that your (mother/father) really doesn’t want a relationship with you. If (she/he) did, (she/he) would have shown up this morning.”
