If you draw a map of what triggers your hot system, you might be surprised. A map of your If-Then situation-behavior signatures can alert you to your hot spots and when and where you are prone to react in ways that you are likely to later regret. Self-monitoring to discover these hot spots can become a step toward reappraising those situations and cooling them, giving you more control over your behavior in pursuit of the goals and values that matter most to you. Even if you don’t want to cool those automatic reactions, you might still benefit from tracking them and observing their
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