A lot of us lost a significant amount of our self-respect from being involved in a pathological relationship. A big part of that came from compromising our needs and values as a result of the manipulation we endured. Suggesting we become clear about our boundaries now is not saying we were at fault. It's about taking what we've experienced, and what we've learned since then, and turning it into something we can actually use in the future to prevent it from happening again.
