You and Me Forever: Marriage in Light of Eternity

by Francis Chan

In other words, our husbands are going to make mistakes. They will not always “deserve” to be the leader in our eyes, but God will always deserve our obedience to Him in this way. And since the command to submit comes from God, our submission is ultimately to Him. 2. Only our submission to God should be absolute. We are not meant to submit to our husbands if they ask us to sin (get drunk, lie, cheat on taxes, watch pornography, etc.). “We must obey God rather than human beings!” (Acts 5:29, NIV). 3. We are designed to help our husbands, and to accomplish so much more together! God decided that it was “not good” for the man to be alone, so He created a helper fit for Adam (Gen. 2:18). Embrace your God-given role. Give your husband the benefit of your insight, wisdom, and perspective. But also give him the freedom to move and lead in the direction he feels God is leading. 4. There is no safer place to be than in the will of God. If we know God has asked us to submit to our husbands, we follow God in that, even though we may be fearful. Ultimately, more women find themselves fighting against God rather than their husbands. And that’s a big reason why so many women are completely miserable. God has carefully crafted every aspect of marriage, and we need to learn to trust Him. 5. The biblical concept of submission does not put your husband in the place of God. If a woman finds herself being subjected to abuse, she shouldn’t hesitate to involve the authorities that can hold her ...