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This is a story about me falling in love with myself.
Another freaking Thursday morning meeting where obnoxious blowhards like to hear themselves speak while absolutely nothing is accomplished.
“Something we tend to forget when married, that we’re tied together in all aspects. What one partner might do affects the other. Whether good or bad. One move tugs on the other and vice versa. That’s why when we’re making our way through life, we need to be aware that our every move is tied to our loved one. We need to be conscious of that.”
We’ve had a long, confusing day full of erotic toys, face-planting, basketball analogies, and unnecessary twerking.
“There isn’t one person on this earth who hasn’t opened a metaphorical suitcase and dumped in it. No life is perfect, no journey unmarred. Everyone’s carrying around something. So there’s absolutely no need to apologize.”
breaking a routine helps break through some of the baggage we hold on to.”
Do not take other people’s flawed opinions about you and turn them into your own.
He has a thirst for life. The need to explore. To engage. To experience the journey beyond a screen. He wants to capture moments on this earth, and I find it so refreshing.
“Those are not an after-dinner treat. Those are in-between-scheduled-event treats. We must savor and hold on to those as much as we can. If something like s’mores is offered to us, we must take it and hoard the Nerds Clusters for a day when no treats are offered.”
“We’ve been through a lot, the both of us, and we’re trying to figure things out. If you can’t handle that, if you can’t believe it, then that’s your own fucking problem, not ours.”
“Holding information out of fear is the biggest form of miscommunication, but it’s also the most common. Every relationship, no matter how excellent you are at talking to your partner, experiences a form of miscommunication. It’s human nature. We become guarded, we don’t want to get hurt, we’re unsure of how the other person is going to respond, so we hold our cards close to our chest. We don’t tell the entire truth, which always hurts the relationship in the long run.
“In a world where we live in our phones, it’s easy to hold out, to not practice simple conversational techniques.”
One of the reasons you’re in a marriage is to have a partner in life that you can do things with, that you can experience things with, you know? And if you don’t take the time to have those experiences, then what’s the goddamn point?”
“When it comes to your mental health, yeah, there’s always a good time to be selfish.
“Nah, I’m only kidding. I know all the sports. Go, balls.”
Sanders explained to me that being mentally absent from a marriage can dismantle a person’s confidence, because it makes it seem like they’re not important, that they have no significance.
