The Twelve Steps Made Simple 1. There’s a power that will kill me. 2. There’s a power that wants me to live. 3. Which do I want? (If you want to die, stop here. If you want to live, go on.) 4. Using examples from your own life, understand that selfishness, dishonesty, resentment, and fear control your actions. 5. Tell all your private, embarrassing secrets to another person.