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There is something disturbing about the stubbornness of romantic obsession, about its unbridled conviction of rightness.
become emblems of failure for their more disciplined and crafty sisters. At worst, unwanted women are freakish aberrations we’re quick to call “bunny boilers,” a term that alludes to Alex Forrest, the spurned woman in the 1987 film Fatal Attraction who leaves her ex-lover’s family pet rabbit in a pot of boiling water; the expression has endured as slang for jealous exes and overzealous aspiring lovers.
Some had a big crush that energized and inspired them. Others became deflated.
We need to reconsider our long-held assumption that when it comes to aggressive unwanted sexual pursuit, the victimized are always female and the victimizers are always male.
There is always a reason why one side of the couple can’t return the love of the other.
The girl is a fool; the man a tragic hero.” Women, therefore, should keep their mouths shut about what they were feeling.
Whereas Dorothy Tennov used the term in the 1970s to describe what she saw as the normal, though difficult, condition of being in passionate love, Samara’s therapist used it in a distinctly different way. Limerence still meant the involuntary state of being in love and experiencing an overwhelming and preoccupying need to have those feelings returned. But it was no longer considered a “normal human experience” in the way Tennov described it. Instead, limerence described a disorder.
Limerence
creativity is a fundamental human response to the frustrations of love.
