I’m guilty. What we have to get rid of here is the idea that anybody has to be guilty. Things happen, sometimes bad things. Nobody has to be blamed. Melanie Klein was the one who did the brilliant work on this. Most religions get into this area of absolving people of blame. Yours and mine doesn’t happen to do the best job of it, but the thought is still buried there, right in ‘Forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive…’ So. When you talk about this, don’t assume guilt, and don’t let her assume it. Talk about how essentially strong she must have been, and how strong you actually are to be able
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