The Sovereign Child: How a Forgotten Philosophy Can Liberate Kids and Their Parents

by Aaron Stupple

both has pros and cons compare to Treating Children Equally.

a movement colliding well with non violent communication; human centered therapy; learner centered education; and entrepreneur centered building.

how come never heard of her?

you can almost call yourself ignorant for not knowing and reading his book multiple times and quote him from time to time if not at daily basis.

personhood

childhood freedom,

print journal called Taking Children Seriously

but why?

wow

I find this mental model is quite effective when describe something that is over arching with profound complexity. what do you do? Let me tell you what I don’t do. what product/service do you have? Let me tell you what I don’t offer. How do I build trust with my team? Let me tell you what actions hurting your relationship. What do I do to get the most out of market return? Let me tell you what action hurting your returns. Laozi’s Wu Wei is about what NOT to do, so it’s not idle or inaction, it’s really what actions to be removed from your daily habit. Meditation is all about what thoughts to let go, not what you should be thinking about.

all of these are putting parents in an active role of doing something that hurts the relationship between children and parents.

it’s unorthodox to a point challenge parents cognitive function which is human nature to see order and be able to predict. using my 7 yo daughter’s world: “ not in my opinion.”

many profound wisdom sound ridiculously ignorant. This is the paradox of truth. When Socrates says the only thing he’s sure about is he is not sure about anything. He means it.

what is not but looks like is where you find insights

this is our entire philosophy of our business building. I’m reading this on the airplane and literarily while I was crossing the security, I have been debating should I create the sloan of: “We Facilitate Understanding” or “We Increase Your Capacity for Understanding”

provide freedom and security for a person’s creativity to discover how the world works.

I was posted on X this morning: The greatest failure in parenting is for children to think they have limited freedom; The greatest failure in education is for students to think they are dumb.

in The Sovereign Individual by James Dale Davidson and William Rees-Mogg.

we are on our mission to create a community fostering “curious parents”

to admit your parents succeeded spectacularly is the first step for complete acceptance of self.

freedom, autonomy, and standards for character.

your parents deserve the validation of they tried the hardest to improve our life within their lineage, that’s the starting point of being grateful.

My parents took a gigantic step forward and I feel I owe them that to make a even bigger progress in my parenting effort.

Any indication of shaming that readers pick up is unintentional.

readers are asked to keep this disclaimer in the back of their minds and append it to any argument in this book that reads like a personal attack.

I am wondering how old are his kids, I would like to take this opportunity to commit my third book to be dedicated to my kids and their mom at their 20th birthday and that is 12 years from now. I’m a business coach and nothing in the book should be consider business and investment advice.

Eating may be the most personal human experience.

human experience is how you understand the world

granularities and layers in chemistry and biology are the nuances in this eating, communicating the nuances in the layers fits the circumstances and in the right order is the biggest challenge for parents to give up this approach and opt for simple rules. only the right moment with the right information creates the subjective experience in children’s brain.

anything require cultivating and refinement like taste in food and art will first fail in eating as that’s your earliest experience of taste.

bound up with almost every other aspect of life.

parents have only the duty not the rights is a hard truth to swallow especially to the parents their own needs are not satisfied.

their preferences are and try to satisfy those, while also offering some new options that might intrigue them.

ask and offering new

control them with food.

many parents are confused why kids learn to manipulating them at such a young age, they started it with food.

everything we do is to create an environment for them to build their special understanding of the world.

boundless experiences

I think this is what limits the rural and small city life, as children born in metropolitans even an average family would have exposed to much wider variety of the food choices and each ties to color of big city life, like season, locations and rich histories and stories. my wife use to tell stories about her seasonal food stories like standing in long queue in chilly autumn watching yellow leaves dancing in midair, it’s all seems worth the long wait when you hold the newly grilled meat cake close to your face and the first bit get your tong touches the slightly too hot juice meat inside the thin and slightly crispy cake shell would give you the thrill right through your spine.

identifying the problem is not the same as identifying the solution.

what a great mental model

have a trusted and knowledgeable person available for questions.

that person may not be you and in many cases is better not the parents

child believes this.

push the kid to find potentially dangerous work-arounds,

it’s dangerous because parents only find out when it’s too late.

we should almost prioritize more time to understand what it means for living well.

Forcing always introduces confusion,

it’s a sure way to block trust and even close the communication challenge all together.

there is a saying in Buddhism: You cannot see through the worldly (mortal) realm without first entering it; If you never pick anything up, how can you talk about putting it down?