emotions are bad. With the fawn response, it was protective for you to hyperfocus on what others were feeling and therefore lose the connection that you had with your own internal world. If you remained totally focused on making sure other people were happy and managing their moods, you didn’t get the opportunity to know the vastness of your emotions and how to coexist with them. How you relate to your emotions is a window into (1) how your caregivers related to their own emotions and (2) how they related to your emotions when you were growing up.
