But mindfulness is really providing us with the ability to be with reality. Mindfulness trains us to deal with what life throws at us with a sense of inner stability instead of turning away from it. It’s not about getting rid of stressors or falsely believing that there’s a magical land in the clouds of our mind where stress doesn’t exist. Rather, we’re altering how we relate to the stress so that we don’t make things harder than they need to be. Practicing mindfulness doesn’t change what’s happening—it changes our capacity to be with what is.
