Are You Mad at Me?: How to Stop Focusing on What Others Think and Start Living for You

by Meg Josephson

Constantly worrying what people think of you, if they like you, if they’re mad at you Overextending yourself, not setting boundaries (and then feeling resentful) Avoiding conflict at all costs Constantly fearing getting in trouble or being seen as “bad” Constantly fearing that you are bad and you’re just fooling everyone Constantly seeking external approval or validation Silencing your needs for the comfort and happiness of everyone else Feeling hypervigilant of people’s emotions and moods Overexplaining yourself as an attempt to feel heard or understood Feeling like everything is your fault, and then overapologizing Being indecisive because you don’t want to disappoint anyone or because you genuinely don’t know what you like or prefer Not trusting yourself to make decisions Having trouble identifying your needs and speaking up about them Never feeling good enough; feeling unworthy of your accomplishments Constantly feeling like you’re “performing” and trying to impress others and prove yourself to them Feeling like you’re a chameleon in relationships