Even when you’re working overtime in an attempt to control how you’re being perceived, the other person is still seeing you through the lens of their own inner world. And by trying to gain control of others’ perceptions, you’re losing something in the process: your sense of self, your precious energy, your peace of mind. Even if you were to do everything “perfectly” for everyone and cater to their exact personality preferences, you still wouldn’t have control over how they perceive you. With fawning, your mind thinks it has control over how people are perceiving you, but this is a false sense
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