So many of us who are stuck in the fawn response never learned the value of boundaries because, as we were growing up, there was no distinction between our outer and inner worlds. Fawners don’t know how to set boundaries because we learned that in order to receive love, we have to do more, give more. So we say yes to everything. When we are adults, this means overextending ourselves; feeling resentful; not knowing who we are and what we need, like, and prefer; and neglecting ourselves over the long term for the short-term safety of pleasing someone else.
