Seeking reassurance means asking the other person to extinguish your fear. “No, I’m not mad at you! Everything is fine!” Phew. It provides fleeting relief, but it doesn’t address or acknowledge the challenging emotions. Reassurance seeking comes from a habitual, compulsive place, where you feel almost as if you’re vomiting words and questions out of urgency, such as repeatedly asking if your partner still loves you or if everything is okay.
