I really think much of it was only possible because of how I’d witnessed Rebecca handle our marriage. My anger toward Big Terry was perfectly justifiable, just like her anger toward me, but if I’d just stayed in that anger, and in my pride, there would have been no way for the relationship to move forward and to deepen and grow. Once I’d humbled myself, and once I’d had the courage to lead with compassion rather than anger, as I’d seen Rebecca do, I realized that everything is not about good or bad. It’s about what you can learn from it.
