“It wasn’t impulse, Dad. Mom wasn’t my first priority. Addie was . . . is. And she didn’t want a whole big thing. Her parents are dead. She has one sister, and that’s it. No other family. All of this makes her uncomfortable. So, I’m sorry I upset Mom. But I did it for my wife. And you always made sure we knew Mom was our mother, but she was your wife, and wife trumps everything else.”