Do also take care that she puts his struggle with lust in a totally different category from her own sin. You want her to see him as an alien creature, or as a failed man. She struggles with bitterness, for instance, but she must see his struggle with pornography as quite a different thing, something only a very wicked person could deal with. She must dehumanize the struggle—and dehumanize the man in the struggle. Keep her mind on the affront to her own honor and vanity. She is hurt by the fact that her husband would ever even want to look at another woman. Let her think of it not as a matter
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