To “feel felt” requires that we attune to each other’s primary emotions. When the primary emotions of two minds are connected, a state of alignment is created in which the two individuals experience a sense of joining. The music of our mind, our primary emotions, becomes intimately influenced by the mind of the other person as we connect with their primary emotional states. If communication is limited to a focus only on the rarely occurring categorical emotions, we lose the opportunity to experience the magical moments of connection that are available to us each day.
